Right now it’s 1am and in all honesty I wanted to write to you in order to reduce my stress levels. Haha. It has been a pretty stressful night for me, mostly because I am bummed about the way some things have ended up for me. However, I wanted to share this with you not to bring you down, but so you can see that my life is not perfect. I talk a lot about positive thinking and positive outlooks, but I too have to deal with negative situations, people, and thoughts. These situations give me the opportunity to practice what I preach, and I wanted to show you an example.
When I am feeling stressed out and/or anxious, I start to feel the physical effects of it. For example, my chest starts to feel heavy, it gets hard to breathe, and I feel really panicky. In order to cope, I practice positive self-talk and take A LOT of deep breaths. Some things I tell myself is that it will all be okay, it’s okay to learn as I go, and it’s okay to try new things and have them not work out. After doing my positive self-talk and deep breathing I started to feel better. (phew)
There are so many ways to cope with stress/anxiety and deep breathing, and positive self talk are just two ways that work for me. If I am spending too much time on all the thoughts wrapped around in my head, I like to get comfy and watch one of my favorite tv shows! Haha. I am a huge believer in doing something that makes you happy.
This quote went perfectly with how I was feeling tonight. I love what it says, especially the part where it says “I will think of solutions” because we could think about our problems forever, but without coming up with solutions it doesn’t get us anywhere positive. The last line “because I don’t quit” also made me smile because it’s true. I won’t quit just because I feel stressed and/or anxious. I won’t quit just because something that I wanted didn’t work out. I know what it is like to be anxious every second of the day so I am not going to tell you to get over it, which is the worst thing someone can tell you. Instead, I am going to tell you to practice positive self-talk and deep breathing. I’d also like you to come up with a couple of your own coping techniques as well. It’s always good to have things in place because you never know when you are going to need them.
Here are some questions I’d like you to think about:
- What would help you in the moments when you feel stressed/anxious?
- Do you want to be alone or be with a friend?
- What is an activity you could do in order to take your mind off of your anxiety?
- What is one thing you could do that makes you really happy?
- What things do you currently have in place to cope with you anxiety?
I hope you will think about these questions and practice these coping techniques with me. I am always looking for new ways to cope with my anxiety, and I think it would not only help me, but also others if you shared your coping techniques with us by adding a comment! 🙂 Thank you!